Many older adults want to stay in their homes and age in place. But you may have concerns about their safety or ability to maintain daily activities.
Remaining home, especially alone, takes planning. Accepting a few lifestyle changes and home modifications could create a safer home environment and help your loved one continue to live there independently. Focus areas are bathroom safety, nighttime safety, preventing falls, good nutrition, socialization, and immediate communication of issues.
- A video doorbell can help your loved one see who is at the door before opening it
- Motion lights outside can deter trespassers and reassure your loved one when it's merely animals passing by
- Dusk to dawn lights outside also help deter trespassers and animals, as well as illuminate areas for your loved one if they're out in the evening (returning home, setting out trash, getting the mail, etc.)
- Replace handles on doors and faucets that are comfortable and easy to use. People with arthritis or weak grip have a difficult time holding and turning round knobs. Use lever-style handles.
- Also consider changing dual knob faucets (hot and cold) to a single lever-style faucet (one control for both).
- Avoid using small area rugs. Small area rugs have a tendency to slide, even with a non-skid backing, and an increased tendency to wrinkle, curl, and fray. (Beware of large area rugs doing the same.)
- Also avoid area rugs with no backing, tasseled edges, or significantly elevated edges (such as coil rugs and braided rugs).
- Use shower mats (inside tub/shower) and bath mats (outside tub/shower) that are in good condition. Make sure shower mats have strong, even suction and bath mats have non-skid backing. After bathing, remove the rug to avoid it being a trip hazard. Replace mats that are torn or have worn-out suction or backing.
- Make sure carpeting is fixed to the floor and there are no edges to trip on. If edges are worn and frayed, lifting, or rolling, remove or replace the carpeting. If unable to remove or replace the carpeting, use transition tape along those edges to lock them down.
- Carpeting with bubbles or wrinkles can also be a trip hazard. Be sure to smooth them out or remove or replace the carpeting.
- Install grab bars near toilets, sinks, and in the tub or shower (see Grab Bars content).
- Install higher toilets or raised toilet seats to assist transitions from from sitting to standing and vice-versa (see Raised Toilet Seats content).
- Place no-slip strips or non-skid mats on tile or wood floors, or other surfaces that may get wet (decks and patios).
- Place light switches at the top and bottom of stairs, and at both ends of long hallways.
- Place motion detection night lights along areas frequently traveled at night - from bedroom to bathroom, for example.
- Install ramps with handrails to access home entrance/exit doors (avoiding stairs).
Many older adults who live alone will stop cooking, which can result in poor nutrition. Heating canned foods and frozen dinners is easy, but they are high in sugar or salt and low in nutrients essential for the older adult. Likewise with fast foods. You can do the following to help your loved one stay healthy:
- Planning menus
- Assisting with grocery lists and shopping
- Prep such as chopping vegetables and measuring ingredients ahead of time
- Preparing meals for storage
- Maintaining a garden
Additional options include:
- Plating meals you make for delivery to them
- Arranging for community meal program participation (communal or delivered to their home)
- Have nutritious “finger foods” available (precut veggies, fruits, cheeses, granola-type bars, single serve yogurts, etc.)
- Incorporate meal supplement shakes (supplement, not replacement), choosing those lowest in salt and sugar
Beware of prepackaged foods and deli foods, as they also tend to be high in salt or sugar. Focus on fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grain and high fiber, though do encourage your loved one to treat themselves once in a while, as well!
And unless they are on a fluid restriction, encourage them to drink lots of water or other clear liquids to stay hydrated. Hydration in the aging adult is just as important as nutrition.
Continuing socialization with family and friends is good for mental health. If your loved one no longer drives, has difficulty ambulating, or other health issues, these tips may help.
- Schedule outings to give your loved one something to look forward to
- Encourage visits with friends
- Arrange for neighbors to stop by, check in
- Turn big tasks like yard work, gardening, washing windows, cleaning gutters, painting, and repairs into gatherings
- Help your loved one learn to use face chat/video call features and schedule them family and friends a couple times a week (especially multigenerational)
- Encourage participation in online education, free webinars, or a book club
- Look for community offerings
- Churches and lodges
- Community centers and senior centers
- Social day care and adult day health care
- Public events like farmers markets, or at parks and libraries
- Use transportation as an opportunity for your loved one to connect with different people (doesn't always have to be you)
- Consider hiring a home care agency to provide companion services
Ability to communicate issues immediately
The communication technology available today is exceptional and the more you can employ with your loved one without frightening or confusing them, the better. Smart devices, smart wearables (like trackers and watches), personal emergency response systems (PERS), active home monitoring systems (voice, video), passive home monitoring systems (without voice, video), and remote patient monitoring (RPM) help you stay plugged in and help your loved one reach out quickly.